It’s All About Perception

It’s All About Perception

Good Day Friends!

Today I’m thinking about how we perceive certain things in our lives and how much perception makes a difference in whether or not we have a good day or a bad day. Sometimes, we are unable to avoid bad days, but overall, I believe perception determines whether we allow those bad days to control the decision we make.

I believe that one way we overcome life struggles is to perceive our struggles in a positive aspect. I see a lot of post about how changing our mindsets is important to achieve the goals that we have set for ourselves. Even God says that we have to renew our minds each day in order to live a more fulfilling life.

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.  -Romans 12:2

I love how it says that God’s will for us is “good and pleasing and perfect”!

I used to think that being diagnosed with mental illness, lupus, and fibromyalgia was the worst thing that could have ever happened to me. I truly thought my life was over, but then I realized it was just the beginning. Changing my perception helped me to realize that I can use this new diagnosis to my advantage.

Changing our mindset or how we view our circumstances helps us forgive those who have hurt us, it helps us to accept our current situation; good or bad, it helps us to have courage to overcome future obstacles, and it helps us to let go and not sweat the small stuff and become more appreciative. Changing our perception also helps us have more faith in God; that He will deliver us from whatever is going on and like scripture says, it will be “good and pleasing and perfect”.

When I decided to change my perception, I asked God for His help and of course He came through with His promise of changing how I think. Fact of the matter is, God will pursue us. He will find ways to get our attention. He will allow things such as illness’ to get our attention so we can actively seek Him, so we can have a close relationship with Him.

He will use our struggles as a chance to get closer to us. God wants us to have a relationship with Him. He wants us to spend time with Him, just like a Father who wants to have a relationship with his children. His love is neither conditional nor passive. I believe God has used mental and physical illness to get my attention so He can have a close relationship with me. Let’s face it. When I was healthy, I really didn’t seek God. I wasn’t concerned with having relationship with Him. I was so wrapped up in my own life, only seeking what I wanted.

When He uses such things are illness’ to get our attention, God doesn’t just sit back and expect us to fight it alone. He fights for us!

The Lord is a warrior: Yahweh is his name. -Exodus 15:3

“Don’t be afraid. Just stand still ad watch the Lord rescue you today… The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm.” -Exodus 14:13,14

Truthfully speaking, my life has gotten better because of it. Why you ask? Since I’ve embraced that this is the current season in my life, it has inspired me to do the things that I’ve always wanted to do. For instance: I am unable to hold a full time job because of this condition. Since I cannot work, I am able to spend more time with my children. I am able to be at home with them more. I am able to connect with them more. I am able to put more time and effort into starting my own business. I am able to concentrate on starting and sustaining my writing career. And more important, I am able to help people by sharing my struggles and helping them overcome theirs. It truly is the best feeling.

Since my diagnosis, I’ve grown closer to God which is awesome! I feel His presence more and more. I feel His unconditional love like never before. I am able to appreciate life more. I am able to slow down and enjoy sunsets. I no longer desire death when I become overwhelmed. I no longer desire to give up. I’ve shed most of the pain that has been apart of me most of my life. I am free from shame, guilt, and condemnation from the enemy. I’ve been able to forgive and forget. I’m eating healthier and I’ve been motivated to work on my dreams.

My diagnosis has been the best worst thing that has happened to me. It has given me a testimony to share with others who are in same boat as I am.

When changing our perception, it is helpful to remember:

  • Gods love is faithful and good (Psalm 36:5)
  • All we have to do is slow down in our self-efforts and allow God to guide our steps (Psalm 37:23)
  • We are safe and secure in Gods love (Deuteronomy 33:27)
  • We are sheltered by His presence (Exodus 33:14)
  • Allow His knowledge to wash over us (Romans 1:19,20)

“Remember, it is not your weakness that will get in the way of Gods working through you, but your delusions of strength. His strength is made perfect is made perfect in our weakness! Point to His strength by being willing to admit your weakness.” -Paul David Tripp

Thank you all for reading my thoughts today. I pray that you all are having a wonderful day. As always, I appreciate everyone who takes the time out to support my blog. Please remember to pray for one another. God bless you!

No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined what God has prepared for those who love him. -Isaiah 64:4

 

Can I Trust God With My Children?

Can I Trust God With My Children?

Hey Friends,

Over the weekend, my family and I took family photos. It was only afterward I began to realize how much time has passed by since the last time we took them. We went through the normal hustle and bustle of making sure that everyone’s hair was properly in place, clothes were neatly ironed, and everyone was in high spirits to smile when the camera flashed.

While waiting for the photographer, I reflected back on how many times we’ve gone through this same process. Ultimately, it was the same process. Being a mom, I was in control of almost everything; hairstyles, outfits, poses, etc.

Now in 2019, this time was different. Now, the kids are older so they can make their own decisions. I can honestly say, that was the most difficult part for me; letting go of control.

For most of our kid’s lives, parents are in control of most of what our kids do (for their safety of course). What they eat. What they drink. What they wear (because it always looks so cute). What time they go to bed. Who their friends are. Even the kind of toys they play with. Where they go. But as they get older, those decisions become less about what we want and more about what they want.

Letting go of control is hard. My oldest will be thirteen this year and I’m afraid for her every day. I’ve made so many decisions for her, I’m afraid that she will have a hard time making the right decisions for herself. She is growing up in a world that is influenced by what everyone else is doing. She has unlimited access to information at her fingertips. She is book smart, but not street smart and that fear of her being taken advantage of is overwhelming at times.

I talk to God about this all of the time. He knows that I struggle with letting go and trusting Him with her completely. Like any other parent, I don’t want my kids to struggle. But I also have to remember that they to have to go through the fire to be refined and forged in order to become who God wants them to be. I’m also afraid that I won’t be able to handle whatever they go through in life. Selfish, right? I know, but it’s how I feel.

One day, they’ll get their heart broken if it hasn’t happened already. One day they’ll face a challenge and have no idea how to handle it. I pray that through my dedication to the Lord, they will follow suit and want to grow closer to him as well. I’m afraid that some of my decisions have damaged them for good. I’m afraid that some of my poor decisions have scarred them life. But I rest in the knowledge that God knows how to fix it. So although I’m afraid, I trust that God will see us through as a family and remove that fear. For it says in His Word:

For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. -2 Timothy 1:7

God has been so good to me, to us. He has gotten us through some pretty rough times. He has proven to us over and over again that He will not leave us nor forsake us (Hebrews 13:5). My kids may not see it, but one day they will.

The point that I am trying to make today is that I can no longer control my children. WE can no longer control our children. If we do, we will push them further away. I want my kids to spread their wings while keeping a close eye on them; watch them without them knowing I’m watching. 🙂

Right now, I am preparing my kids for the world. Teaching them the love that Christ Jesus has for us and being as honest as I can about the questions they have for this life. The rest is in God’s hand because He loves them way more than I ever could (and that says a lot because the love that I have for my kids is unconditional). So can you imagine how much He loves them?

He pulled me from the pits of hell. So what more could He do for them?

Father, I am choosing and committing right now to trust you with my children. You love them unconditionally and will do what is in their best interest. Father, you see the whole picture, not just what’s in front of You, like us mere mortals. Thank You, Father, for Your grace, love, mercy, and the gift of righteousness that will save them from the enemies lies. I love You with all of my mind, heart, and soul. Amen.

Here is our family photo from this weekend

“For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. For one will scarcely die for a righteous person—though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to die— but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” -Romans‬ ‭5:6-8‬ ‭

 

 

It Takes A Village

It Takes A Village

Hey Friends,

I’ve been through some pretty difficult challenges in life, but one challenge that outweighs the rest of them all is parenting 👶🏽👶🏽👶🏽. There, I said it. Parenting is by far the most difficult task that has been assigned to me. Now before you judge me, just think about why people say “it takes a village to raise a child”. Well, what would it take to raise three or four or ten?

Being a stay at mom requires patience, diligence, Gods love (not human), and being able to multitask at any given moment. You have to be able to hold your composer when you want to yell and scream 🗣and throw a tantrum yourself when your kid wants to act a darn fool out in public. You have moms faking it for social media trying to make it look so easy, but it’s not. I think moms try so desperately to make it look easy because they don’t want to be judged by society. If we were to admit that sometimes we think about running away and never looking back, society would “clutch their pearls” and gasp for air in awe, like, “how dare she? 👀 Children are the most precious things in the world. I would never think such a thing.” Yea, well, most people who think that have never had to stop a three-year-old from throwing a tantrum in the middle of the grocery store almost every time they went shopping or better yet, never had children of their own.

Yes, children are precious and I would give my life for mine, but that doesn’t mean that sometimes I’m not tempted to rip their heads off every once in a while for the frustrating, nail-biting, angering things that they do as children.

I knew this one lady. She was the epidemy of a perfect mother. She was patient and kind to her children. She even made baby food from real fruits and vegetables. Sometimes I don’t even have the energy to make real vegetables and fruits for dinner for my whole family. Anyway, her house was always nice and clean and her children were so well behaved. Until….I found out that she and her six children were all taking over the recommended dose of Adderall (a drug to treat ADHD). No wonder she had the energy to get things done! Everybody in the family was drugged up. My only point being is everything isn’t always what it seems. And she was heavily addicted to drugs to help her raise her family.

Now, I know what you’re thinking. Yes! Kids can drive you to drugs and alcohol if you’re not too careful. People like to assume that loving your kids will make you make the right decisions for them. Love will make you become patient and kind. Love will conquer all the feelings of fear and frustration that comes along with parenting. I am here to tell you that is not the case. Only Gods love for us can do those things. We need support and guidance from other moms who have been down the same road. We need a shoulder to cry on when those days come when we just want to run. We need help!

I judge myself all of the time as a parent. I want to do this right and that right. I want to make them happy, but discipline them so they become responsible adults. I want to love them unconditionally, but also let them know that I am not their friend, but their mom. Lately, I feel like I’ve been screwing up on all of it. I’ve allowed other people to get into my head to fuel those feelings of insecurities and inadequacy. My love for them just never feels like enough because of the things that I struggle with within me. I’m a bad mother…so I thought.

Then I have to remember. Who made me? God did. Who made my children? God did (with a little hanky panky). Who gave me my specific children? God did. Who trusts me with them? God does. Gods opinion of me is the only one that matter and if someone’s else’s opinion of me doesn’t match Gods opinion of me, then that is their problem, not mine. I’m learning to parent everyday that I wake up. I know what God says about me, therefore I know what He says about them.

He says I’m more than a conqueror through Christ Jesus. I am an overcomer by the blood of the Lamb and the word of my testimony. And I know there is nothing that one one can ever say to me that can separate me from His love. And He says the same things about you and your children.

God also says in His word that children are a gift and that He is will get us through everything that we go through, including raising children. So I want to tell you that if you are a parent and you are feeling overwhelmed, please know that you are not alone. I’m sure you are doing the best you can with what you have. Of course, if you feel yourself getting angry to the point where you want to beat or shake your kid(s), please seek help. Go see your pediatrician and they should provide help for you. Otherwise, look in your area to see where the nearest emergency nursery is. It’s an organization that provides free childcare for parents who need a couple of hours to themselves to clear their heads.

This parenting thing is hard work and it definitely didn’t come with an instructional manual. I don’t care how many baby books you’ve read, each child is different so something that worked for one child may not work for your child.

Thank you for reading my thoughts today. I pray if you are having a rough day, that God shines His light brighter than usually during your moment of darkness. I pray you are able to sit at His feet, even if you have a screaming toddler sitting at yours. I pray that you are able to see your children as God sees you, worth more than all of the riches in heaven and on earth. I love you all and please remember to pray for one another, especially us parents ☝🏽🙂

No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it. -Hebrews 12:11

Funny Friday

Funny Friday

Hey Friends!

I’m so glad to be back. Writing is the source of my calm. Even if I wanted to stop ✋, I couldn’t! It’s my life’s passion. It’s like breathing for me. Do you have a passion like that? Do you find yourself missing something that used to be your “calm”?💆🏽‍♀️ Make sure you make it a priority to get back to doing whatever made your heart flutter. 💕We all need a healthy escape from life sometimes. 😉

Anyway, welcome back to Funny Friday! I pray that you all have a wonderful weekend filled with many blessings and Gods endless grace and love. Please remember to pray for one another and don’t forget to laugh! 🤗

A BUS FULL OF UGLY PEOPLE

A bus full of ugly people had a head on collision with a truck. When they died, God granted all of them one wish. The first person said, “I want to be gorgeous.” God snapped his fingers and it happened. The second person said the same thing and God did the same thing. This want on and on throughout the group. God noticed the last man in line was laughing hysterically. By the time God got to the last ten people, the last man was laughing and rolling on the ground. When the man’s turn came, he laughed and said, “I wish they were all ugly again.”

Funny Fridays

A frog goes to a fortune teller to find out if he will ever be lucky in love.

The fortune teller reads his palm and tells the frog, “I have good news and I have bad news. Which would you like to hear first?”

The frog asks for the good news first.

The fortune teller says, “You are going to meet the most beautiful girl, who is going to be very interested in you and will want to know all about you. She will want you to open up for her and you will give her your heart.”

“That’s great!” says the frog. “But what’s the bad news?”

“Well, you’re going to meet her in Biology class.”

Hope you guys have a wonderful weekend!

Story borrowed from SunnySkyz.com

Black and White Photo Challenge Day 7

I would like to thank the lovely Shreya Jindal for nominating me for this wonderful black and white photo challenge.

Rules are:

  • Seven days
  • Seven black and white photos of your life
  • No people
  • No explanation
  • Challenge someone new each day.

Thank you so much for sticking with me though this challenge. It was a little difficult because almost everything in my life has an explanation in it or people in it. I guess that’s what made it a challenge. 😉❤️

Black and White Photo Challenge Day 1

I would like to thank the lovely Shreya Jindal for nominating me for this wonderful black and white photo challenge. I’ve been wanting to publish content everyday, so maybe this will give me the courage to do so.

Rules are:

  • Seven days
  • Seven black and white photos of your life
  • No people
  • No explanation
  • Challenge someone new each day.

I challenge Ana with Timeless Classics blog

Need Fuel? 12 Inspiring Quotes To Get You Through the Day

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We have all bad days, don’t we? You guys know I have. One way that I have shared getting through difficult moments in my life is listening and memorizing motivational speeches and quotes. It helps replace my negative thoughts with positive ones. Since I’ve been practicing this, I find myself being more positive whenever a discouraging thought pops into my mind. Experts now say that it takes 21 days to form a habit. So, 21 days of replacing negative thoughts with more inspiring ones are definitely something that will help defeat depression in the long run. 

Some people believe that words are powerless, but we should know better by now that words have the power to hurt, heal, hinder, harm, humiliate, and humble. We all have heard the saying “sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” This couldn’t be furthest from the truth. Hurtful words having started wars, destroyed families, and has caused unimaginable pain.

We now live in a world where everyone’s words are being read online every day, all day. In my opinion, we have more social interactions online than in-person interactions. Think about it. We communicate a lot via social media, blog outlets, emails, and text messages. We have the ability to communicate with millions of people simultaneously in a matter of seconds. What a time to be alive, right? We spend a lot of time reading other people’s thoughts and opinions, good and bad. My experience with social media has been egregious. It is actually one of the reason’s why I decided to start a blog. I want to spread more positivity vibes online, since as a society, we spend so much time on here. I’ve noticed that there a lot of people who would rather spread more negative energy than positive energy, but that’s not what I want for our children and the following generations to come. I want them to understand that words are powerful; written, typed, said aloud; they are powerful. As human beings, we should uplift and help each other get through this thing called life.  Below are a few words by some really awesome people who figured out how to overcome the negative energy and push forward. Please judge the message, not the messenger.

“Once you choose hope, anything is possible.” -Christopher Reeves

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. only through experience of trial and suffering can the Soul be strengthened, Vision cleared, ambition inspired, and success achieved.” -Helen Keller

“Getting better from depression demands a lifelong commitment. I’ve made that commitment for my life’s sake and for those who love me.” -Susan Polis Schutz

“A positive attiitude gives you power over your circumstance, instead of your circumstances having power over you.” -Joyce Meyer

“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to continually fear that you will make one.” -Elbert Hubbard

“Hope is important because it can make the present moment less difficult to bear. If we believe that tomorrow will be better, we can bear a hardship today.” -Thich Nhat Hanh

“The greatest glory in living lies not in never failing, but in rising every time we fail.” -Nelson Mandela

“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning how to dance in the rain.” -Vivian Greene

“Always remember you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, smarter than you think, and twice as beautiful as you’ve ever imagined.” – Dr Suess

“Never be limited by others people limited imaginations.” -Dr Mae Jemison

“Success is to be measured  not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome while trying to succeed.” -Booker T Washington

“Change will not come if we wait for some other person and some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.” -Former President Barack Obama

Trust The Process: What Choosing Life Looks Like

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Live for Today. Choose life. The mantra that I repeat to myself everyday, every hour, and sometimes every second. Chronic illness will try to trick you into thinking that your life is over after diagnosis. We aren’t the same people that we once were. We aren’t able to do the same things that we once did. It can be devastating, if you let it.

Two simple words with so much meaning. Choose Life. I feel as though God has given me sign after sign to stand still. I’m so used to moving and grooving. I was on a fast track to finally becoming financially stable. I had just finished school and after 10 long years, received a college degree. I was working at my dream job as a registered medical assistant at a prestigious hospital, and I loved the day-to-day interactions that I had with my patients. I really felt like I was making a difference. But then, I became ill. After going through the “woe is me”, “my life sucks” phase, I began to notice that God is trying to tell me to be still during this storm.

“Each time he said, ‘My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.’ So now I am glad to boast about my weakness, so that the power of Christ can work through me. That’s why I take pleasure in my weaknesses, and in the insults, hardships, persecutions, and troubles that I suffer for Christ. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”  (NLT) (2 Corinthians 12:9-10)

Now when I think about my battle with Lupus and Fibromyalgia , my perspective has completely changed. After reading His word, I was reminded that God will break you to position you, to put you in the right place, and to promote you. Lucky for us, He is a just God and a loving God, so when he breaks you, it will not hurt you or destroy you because He is also a graceful God. Trust the process that God has set before you. We may not always know why things are happening to us, but honestly, it’s not for us to know. When God wants it revealed, it will be revealed. Until then, trust the process.

Trusting His process is hard, at least it was for me. But then, after nine long days of going through a lupus flare I noticed something different about my husband. It’s not that he did anything different, it’s just God changed my perspective. When I’m in pain, everything that he does is annoying. Everything he says I take offensive and sometimes everything he does is wrong. Well, at least that’s how I felt when my mind is so engulfed in my own pain, that I am unable to see how blessed I really am. Until today. Today, my husband woke up, got our three children feed, clothed and ready for school and then went to school himself. Immediately afterwards, grabbed lunch for me, then went to his first day at his new job, only to come home, cook dinner, feed the kids, entertain them!, put them to bed, and still have the energy to give me a deep-muscle massage to relieve my body ache.

I immediately asked my husband to forgive me. He has been a ROCK throughout this entire process and I’ve taken him for granted. He effortlessly makes me laugh and smile everyday so I wont think about the pain. He tries so hard to make me happy, even when I’m working his last nerves. And most importantly, he is an amazing father to our kids; helping them understand and cope with what mommy is going through. Thank you Jesus for sending me this man! He is proof that You have not forsaken me, nor forgotten about me. You’ve sent the perfect person to stand with me and push me to beat this.

God has placed the tools that I need in my life to get through what I used to call a tragedy. I would be lying if I said wonderful things haven’t blossomed during my illness; I’ve grown closer to my husband, kids, and family members. I’m able to be more attentive to my families needs and wants. I’ve even been able to build a stronger relationship with Jesus Christ.

Remember, trust the process. Trust Him. Thank you to EVERYONE who has prayed for me, helped me, blessed me, and has been supportive of me. I love you more than I can express.

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6

A Hundred Weeds or A Hundred Wishes?

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A few years ago, I was having lunch with my brother. We were catching up on the latest tea in each others lives. I can’t remember exactly what made him ask, but he proceeded to ask me a question that I would think about almost everyday since that conversation. He asked, “Ashley, why do you always expect the other shoe to drop?” In other words, why do I always expect the worst to happen? My response was very simple, “Because I know it will and I want to be prepared when it does.” Most people would say that my skeptical personality is lethal to my overall perception of humanity, but it all depends on one’s perception of skepticism. I would say that I am more of a realist.

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I believe that there are two different ways to perceive Karma; fear-based and love-based. Fear-based karma is the consequences, good and bad, that are brought to you based on your actions, good or bad. You are judged for your actions; basically, you reap what you sow. While love-based karma is a belief that every lesson is a gift that provides lessons for your soul’s personal growth and will continue to bring back these lessons until you have learned from them.

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I’ve learned that how you perceive life’s challenges is half the battle. Love-based karma believers take the challenges of life and learn from them. They see each challenge as a lesson to get through and grow from the experience. Fear-based karma believers view life challenges as punishment for something they may have done to someone else in the past. I used to think that my condition, SLE ( systemic lupus erythematosus) and Fibromyalgia, is a punishment from God because of all of the awful things that I have done in my past. While now, I look at this illness as another one of life’s challenges that I need to work through and learn from. Now the only question left is, what am I supposed to learn from this? But I think that question should be answered in another blog post. Bad things happen. It’s life. The only things we can control is how we perceive the challenges and our reaction to the challenge. This is what separates us from the animals, right?

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“When you look at a field of dandelions, you can either see a hundred weeds, or a hundred wishes.” -Unknown

How Tea Tree Oil Will Change Your Life

 

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Ok! Im really excited to tell you guys about something that I’ve been doing a lot of research on. I am always looking for ways to increase my chances of staying healthy; mind, body, and soul, without using man-made chemicals unless absolutely necessary. Although I am in the baby stages, I would like to share with you what I have learned thus far.

Tea Tree Oil! Derived from leaves of a tea tree,(not to be confused with tea-plant) is an essential oil that is widely used to treat infections and household problems. Although Tea Tree Oil is highly toxic if ingested, it is surprisingly a miracle cure for skin infections and scars. This is awesome for my any one living with an autoimmune disorder, like Lupus, because once we get an infection, that’s when my body completely shuts itself down.

Tea Tree Oil is safe and all natural ONLY TO BE USED TOPICALLY. If you have sensitive skin, I would recommend diluting it with a carrier oil, such as, olive and coconut oil or sweet almond oil.

Below are several reasons why you should have tea tree oil on hand at all times

Acne Treatment

Tea Tree Oil antimicrobial terpenes content makes it popular for fighting acne. Along with MRSA or staph infections, it is also known to kill Propionibacterium acne that lives inside hair follicles. Although it may take longer to heal acne bumps and scars, it is the best way to combat infections since it is all natural and it is proven to be less damaging to the skin.

Eliminate Ringworm 

Ringworm is a fungal infection of the skin that is highly contagious. I had about 2-3 when I was younger. The oil’s anti-fungal properties make it effective treating and preventing ringworm. Just apply 2-3 drops of pure tea tree oil diluted in carrier oil. Apply to infection 2-3 times a day. You could also clean personal items that have come in contact with the infection to prevent spreading it any further.

Oral Health

It is known to reduce gum bleeding and tooth decay, along with healing open sores, and any bacteria or fungal infections. Just add a drop on your toothpaste or you can make your own toothpaste. Just add 1/4 cup of coconut oil—2 TBSP baking soda—10 drops of tea tree oil. Use it like you would use any other toothpaste.

Insect Bites and Stings

Tea Tree Oil is great for bringing down the swelling of an insect bite or sting. When you add a carrier oil, the infected area will disinfect the wound, prevent itching, and lessens pain. Healing would take about 1-2 days. Also, it is great for keeping the bugs away, or even killing them. This is great because since I have 3 small kids, who are ridiculously afraid of bugs, it will allow my family to save so much money on bug spray, that smells weird and feels really oily.

Pest Repellent

The oil’s anti-parasitic properties destroys and/or suppress the growth of fleas, lice, and ticks. This is great for my outdoorsy folks! Also, you can keep away mosquitoes, ants, spiders, and fleas. Just douse a cotton balls with Tea Tree Oil and place it in the area needed, and those pesky critters will be gone. Garbage cans, outdoor adventures, you name it!

Household Cleaner

Tea tree oil is a disinfectant and a fragrance, all in one. There are so many, everyday household chores that you can use tea tree oil. You can make it an all-purpose a cleaner by placing 10 drops of tea tree oil, 2 cups of hot water, and 1/2 cup of vinager into a 1 quart spray bottle. It cleans counters, fixtures, mirrors, etc. You can even use it as an air fresher by adding a cup of water, 3 drops of tea tree oil, 2 drops of lemon essential oil, place into a spray bottle, shake, and wa la! Your very own homemade febreeze. Hmmm. That may be an interesting candle scent.

Scalp and Hair Health

If you have mild to extreme dandruff or just plain old itchy scalp, which is caused by an allergic reaction, bacteria, or fungus, this is the stuff for you. I’ve always suffered from dry scalp, and its super embarrassing when I see large flakes of skin on my shirt and pillow case. I was advised to place 2-3 drops in your shampoo per wash, and rinse. I will update you on how that works for me.

I dont know about you guys, but once I found out all of this information, I knew I had to grab a bottle. Find the reviews for this particular brand at Amazon ArtNaturals Tea Tree Oil

 

 

We’re Being Poisoned People!

The United States has been poisoning the American people with genetically modified food organisms since 1996. Genetically Modified Organisms, or GMO’s, are defined as organisms, such as, animals, plants, and microorganisms, in which the DNA is altered to where it is unable to occur naturally.

Our government decided to use GMO’s to alter our food to enhance desired traits, such as, improving nutritional value and increase resistance of herbicides and to provide “long-lasting” products. If you do not know, herbicides are chemicals designed to kill unwanted vegetation, such as, garden weeds.

There are several reason why this was a bad idea:

 

  • In 1999, Europe discontinued the use of GM food due to a high-profile case stating the dangers of GM foods.

 

    1. Dr. Arpad Pusztai, a hungarian scientist, first began to notice the negative effects on the human body and DNA caused by GM foods. Jeffrey Smith, founder of the Institute for Responsible Technology, is leading the movement to eliminate genetically modified organisms (GMOs) in the United States. Jeffrey Smith did an interview with Dr. Pusztai, where he described his experience with the government and gm foods, stating, “Dr. Arpad Pusztai… has been gagged and told that if he talked about what he knew, he would be sued. Well, by an order of parliament, his gag order was lifted and he could finally talk about how he discovered that genetically engineered foods were inherently unsafe and could create all sorts of damage — just from the process itself, irrespective of what gene you put in.”

 

 

  • GMO’s are extremely unhealthy

 

    1. AAEM (American Academy of Environmentally Medicine) encourage doctors the prescribe non-GMO foods to their patients
    2. Animal studies show that GM foods caused GI and immune system disorders, organ damage, accelerated aging, and infertility issues.
    3. Human studies show that GM foods can leave materials inside of us, causing long-term problems and health issues.
      1. FDA scientist found toxic insecticides produced by GM corn inside the blood of a pregnant women and their unborn fetuses.
    4. The number of Americans with (3) or more illness’ increased from 7% to 13% within 8 years GM foods were introduced
    5. Food allergies increased dramatically.
    6. Disorders, such as, reproductive disorders, autism, and digestive problems increased.
  • GMO contamination is FOREVER
    1. It has been determined that self-propagating GMO pollution will out last nuclear waste and global warming.

 

 

  • GMO increase herbicide use, causing more chemicals around our organic foods and environment
    1. Between 1996 and 2008, farmers used 38 million pounds of herbicides on GMO’s.

 

 

  • Government oversight is lax
    1. The FDA (Food and Drug Administration) does not require safety studies
    2. Companies are allowed to sell food to the public without notifying the FDA.
    3. FDA scientist have gone on record to say that “GMO’s can create unpredictable, hard-to-detect side effects”.

 

  • Independent researchers are being attacked
    1. Scientist that have spoken out about the dangers of GM foods have been attacked, gagged, threatened, fired, and denied funding for their research
    2. In 2001, New Zealand Parliament member Sue Kedgley told the 2001 Royal Commission of Inquiry on Genetic Modification: “Personally I have been contacted by telephone and e-mail by a number of scientists who have serious concerns about aspects of the research that is taking place…are convinced that if they express these fears publicly, even at such a commission. . . or even if they asked the awkward and difficult questions, they will be eased out of their institution.”
  • GMO’s are harmful for the environment
    1. Monarch butterfly population down by 50% in the U.S. due to habitat elimination caused by GM crops
    2. GM crops and herbicides are known to harm wildlife, such as, birds, insects, amphibians, soil organisms, and our ecosystems.

As you can see, the use of genetically modified organisms in our food causes long-term damage, not only to your body, but to our plants and animals. Research shows that if we, as a society, stop buying GM foods, that it’ll force the government to discontinue their use of GMO’s. It is definitely easier said than done. I mean, GM foods are a lot cheaper than organic foods. But, there are ways that you can try to cut out GM foods in your diet.

Grow your own fruits and vegetables and you don’t have to be a professional gardener to do it. You can practice by going to your local Dollar General or Dollar Tree and buy everything you need to garden under $5, including seeds. Grocery stores, such as Aldi, offers organic foods for a low price. Make sure that you see on the product that is “non-gmo”. It is usually on the bottom of the product.

Stay Healthy. Stay Happy. Stay Free!

Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well. – 3 John 1:2

References:
http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2010/10/09/jeff-smith-interview-gmo-week.aspx
https://www.organicconsumers.org/news/arpad-pusztai-and-risks-genetic-engineering
http://www.globalresearch.ca/gmo-researchers-attacked-evidence-denied-and-a-population-at-risk/5305324

 

Transferable Energy

Everyone has an energy field that surrounds them all of the time. You. Me. Everyone. Some people have positive energy, and some people have negative energy. There are many things that can determine whether what kind of energy a person has. red_energy_gym

Up until recently, I’ve never put that much thought into what kind of energy I had. I used to think of myself as someone who always had great energy. And typically, I did, but I never took into account of the people I was hanging out with, the kind of music I was listening to, and even the things that I ate, ALL effected my energy. I would find myself being in terrible moods. Then I thought, everyone in a bad a mood sometimes. But then it started to take over my life. My bad moods began to affect my relationships with my family and friends.

During this time, I was in a very toxic relationship. He was always angry, always in a bad mood. He thought the world was against him. He was incapable of seeing past his own hurt and rage. Every time we spoke on the phone or hung around each other, my chest would always get so heavy and worry would cloud my mind and my judgement. Thus, affecting my other relationships.

After our relationship was over, it was like a huge weight was lifted from my shoulders. Even though my heartbroken, I was relieved. I noticed immediately that my mood and that negative energy that clung onto to me, was no longer there. The clouds opened up, and the sun began to shine again. Shortly after, I began researching transferable energy.

The thing about negative energy is that it follows you. Negative energy is like the clingy boyfriend that’s not getting the hint that you’re not interested anymore. And, negative energy loves negative energy. Negative energy can consume you, drain you from all of the things you find beautiful in life; watching your kids play, watching the sun rise, loving your family to the fullest.

After my health began to decline, my energy definitely turned dark. I was stuck in my bed with a puke bucket. I couldn’t do anything for myself without help from my husband. Honestly, I felt like a child. And being the independent woman that I’ve been my entire life, I allowed thoughts of self loathing and disappointment to clutter my mind because I had to depend on my husband to wipe my ass. The depression fed my negative energy and vice versa. So when I had moments to spend with my kids, I felt so sorry for myself, I couldn’t enjoy it. And my negative energy was so strong that it began to make them feel bad. I realized what I was doing when one day, everyone woke up on a bad mood. That is when I saw that everyone was picking up on my moods. Needless to say, I felt like crap. I only want my family to be happy and it crushed me to see that I was doing this to them.

This is what has inspired Harotian Essentials. I dove into finding out as much as a I can about what I can do to turn my negative energy into positive energy.

Here are a few tips that I have learned along the way:

  • Don’t focus on the problem. Focus on the solution. – Most of us are worry bugs. And it be honest, it’s easier to worry about a problem versus climbing the mountain to solve it. But worrying does nothing but bring stress and anxiety. Focus on a plan to solve your problem. It’ll make you feel better, plus, you’ll feel productive in the process. positive-energy-flow-sage-goddess-facebook-blog-optimal
  • Keep it light – negative people love to have conversations about serious topics. Although discussing serious topics is a must in today’s society, try to throw a joke or a funny story into the mix.
  • Remove negative people or objects – If you are able, remove negative people and/or objects from your life. If you have a piece of jewelry that reminds you of a bad breakup, or a blanket that reminds you of a bad time in your life, get rid of it. Replace it with something that makes you feel great. If you are unable to remove negative people, set limitations to your relationship. If thehow-to-live-life-to-the-fullest-2y begin to talk about something negative, immediately change the subject. Either they’ll change the subject with you, or they’ll stop talking to you about it. Either way, you win.
  • Do what makes you happy! – You and you alone are the only person that can chose how you feel. Take care of yourself and your energy. Because just like negative energy, positive energy is clingy and very contagious. The more people with positive energy, the better our world will be.

As always…Peace, Love, and Happiness from my home to yours!

A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones. -Proverbs 17:22