How Fear Became My Guide

10 Steps for Overcoming the Fear of Making a Change

Fear can be scary. The uncertainty, the regret, the guilt…all of which can be partnered with fear. Those feelings are heavy or overbearing. They can make you feel numb and overwhelmed at the same time. This is probably why people give into the fear because it can be too much to bear. Have ever wanted to do something, but then thought, “No I can’t.”, “What will people think?”, “What if I fail?”

I’m here to tell you that fear can be your best friend. Sounds crazy, right? It’s not. Fear can be your guide to greatness.

Today was my husband’s Christmas party at his school. A few weeks ago, he told me that I should try to sell my awesome 100% all natural soy wax candles. At first, I agreed, until last night. Fear was hitting me hard. I began coming up with excuses as to why I shouldn’t take my candles to his party. I thought to myself that no one was going to be interested in buying my candles. I became so afraid that I almost had a panic attack. My thoughts were becoming louder than the truth.

That’s when it hit me. If I’m having this much fear from an idea that could improve my life and my family’s lives, then maybe this is something that I SHOULD be accomplishing. I mean, the worst thing that could happen is no one would purchase any of my candles and that is ok! I know my candles are awesome and honestly, they provide therapy when I’m making them. I love the smell of the soy wax melting into its silky substance and how the essential oils swirl in the wax before settling. So I made myself get up. It resulted in 4 glorious, relaxing hours making soy wax candles; prepping them to look awesome and appealing. Making sure that each scent was strong, yet soothing. Each candle that I crafted slowly took away my fear and replaced it with pride.

So, this morning we headed off to his party. I was cute (really cute *snaps*) but sweaty from my nerves being on ten. I was so nervous. At first, the other party-goers weren’t showing interest, but then my wonderful husband asked, “Hey, does anyone want to buy a candle?”

I sold out immediately. I repeat…I SOLD OUT! It was amazing. I look back and wonder, what was I so afraid of? If I would have listened to fear, I still would have been wondering how to pay my car insurance bill. Now, I have the money that we need.

I didn’t listen to fear, but I allowed it to guide me. Whatever it is that you want to do…Whatever it is that will make you dance naked on the rooftop if you accomplished it…DO NOT listen to fear, but use it as a guide to do better and become better.

Sometimes, God wants us to feel fear and sadness. He wants us to use fear, sadness, disappointment, and every other negative feeling, to become stronger than you thought you could be. Allow your negative feelings to turn into positive actions.

You are awesome. You are loved. You are wonderfully made.

“For the kind of sorrow God wants us to experience leads us away from sin and results in salvation. There’s no regret for that kind of sorrow, which lacks repentance, results in spiritual death.” -2 Corinthians 7:10

25 Comments Add yours

  1. So often fear of failure can lead us to work out the bugs, ahead of time. Fear can be one of proactivity’s tools!

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    1. I agree. It definitely can. Thanks for reading and commentingπŸ˜‰πŸ€—

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  2. CoffeeLander says:

    Wow! super. So you sold them all. Congrats you are now officially the sales’lady’ of the ………party πŸ˜‰

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    1. Hahahaha! Thank you so much

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  3. What a wonderful lesson you’ve taught! Really appreciate you sharing your story with us. Fear does indeed paralyse us from reaching our dreams, I’m glad you also have the support of a good husband to help you see your potential. πŸ™‚

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    1. Thank you so much! I’m really glad you enjoyed reading my story. Have a wonderful day πŸ˜‰πŸ€—

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  4. Interesting post and I learned something new. I guess fear can work to our advantages.
    Nice post!

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    1. Thank you so much. Im glad I was able to provide a different perspective. Have a wonderful day πŸ˜‰πŸ€—

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  5. Shoumodip says:

    What better way could be to communicate ones’ thought than sharing own story!!!
    Great insight and very well presented.
    We do fear of being judged by people…get scared if our idea might fail…feel tensed with many what-ifs in our mind…taking the first step is very important…
    congratulations to you for conquering your fears….

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    1. Thank you so much. Im so happy that you enjoyed my thoughts. Fear can be debilitating. I just want people to know that it doesnt have to be. πŸ˜Žβ˜ΊοΈπŸ€—

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      1. Shoumodip says:

        That’s y i have always loved BATMAN πŸ˜›
        “How can you move faster than possible, fight longer than possible without the most powerful impulse of the spirit: the fear of death.”

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        1. Batman is awesome. My husband and I debate about it all of the tine because he loves Deadpool. It also brings up the debate of which is better…Marvel or DC.πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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        2. Shoumodip says:

          Deadpool is one hell of a decision maker. I love Batman for his power of empathy and righteousness. BUT deadpool that guy thinks on his feet…makes judgement instantaneously…FOR him decision is NEVER right OR Wrong until U have the will to make one…
          I guess the debate must be very exciting πŸ˜› πŸ™‚

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        3. I love how you explained Deadpools character. It helps me better understand his side of the debate. Sometimes our discussion can get a little spicy. Lol. Im a very passionate person πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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        4. Shoumodip says:

          Thanks… πŸ™‚
          But you know sometimes these fictional characters teach so many small simple important stuffs that even our experiences seems small in front of them
          To be honest, I always try to implement them but maximum times I fail 😦

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        5. We all fail. Its getting back up that determines our success. I relate more to fictional characters b/c that’s what my childhood consisted of…watching TV. So those are the people i looked up too. It wasn’t until I was around 15 years old i began to see the good in humanity.

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        6. Shoumodip says:

          Yep that is so true…
          Again I recall a quote from Batman…Why Do We Fall??…..

          I believe people can become become mature even at a very small age but can still remain immature even at an age of 80
          And u are so fortunate to have realized the essence of life so early and moreover helping others with their journey…
          Sometimes all we just need to do if ACCEPT!!!

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        7. Yes…acceptance is easily obtained but so many people lack it.

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        8. Thank you so much for your kind words

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  6. Incredible! πŸ˜€ Super awesome to hear that you sold out, and as a bonus, paid for your car insurance!

    I remember a time when I basically used to be ruled by fear- and it was only a few years ago. It took me getting stuck on a high ropes course (dangling about 40 feet in my safety harness and too exhausted to pick myself immediately up again) to realize that if God can get me through a high stress situation like that when I’m tired as a dead man, I can basically do anything that God asks me to do on the ground. LOL

    He certainly uses interesting situations for our benefit. πŸ˜€

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    1. Wow! What a life changing situation. Thank you so much for your kind words. I’m glad fear no longer has ahold of you. πŸ€—πŸ˜‰ God bless you dear

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  7. memaojukwu says:

    Haha!πŸ˜„ I loved this. In your face fear! And by the way, I’d have been one of those to buy the candles! Thanks for sharing this! Would be here from time to time.😁

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    1. Thank you for reading and commenting. πŸ˜‰πŸ€—

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